I've recently been working with a local hospital's bariatric center in counseling their patients in better ways of living. I call it "positive anchoring".
Throughout our lives, we tend to get "hitched" to certain ways of thinking and we anchor ourselves to those thoughts or perceptions, whether they're good or bad. Unfortunately, the bad ones can have a really big affect on our lives. One concept that comes from Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (a theory in modern psychology) is "Change your thoughts, change your life".
Think about that for a moment. We say things like "she made me mad" or "you make me sick". Well, it's "true" to some extent. Of course, we can choose how we act on our emotions but the concept remains; our perceptions are affecting our emotions, which affect our lives, which affect our environments, et cetera.
In terms of our habits and perceptions, those negative "seeds" grow into noxious weeds!
However, we can change our thinking and affect our lives.
As a hypnotist, I work with my clients to plant positive seeds and engender better ways of thinking and ultimately better habits and lifestyles. One concept I use is "anchoring" them to constructive thoughts that will lead to a subconscious action or vice versa. The results are astounding.
People change. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise. Depending on the motivation and thinking, people work toward new goals and habits. Think about it, how many times have you seen an old friend after being separated and begin to note changes in their behavior? Most of the time, these changes are a part of life but hypnosis is a proven method used to engender change with faster results.
Think about the things your anchored to in life. Are they working to help or hinder your progress? Do you have a bad habit, like smoking or alcohol abuse? I wonder if you've become anchored to something else?
Cause and effect. We tend to get frustrated with ourselves when we're trying to make a change in our life and run into the age old truth "old habits die hard". One of the reasons that we run into that irritating truth is that we have neglected to determine [why] we have the habit in the first place.
In my experience, many smokers are anxious. Many alcoholics are avoiding pain. Some over-eaters feel unworthy or rejected. Getting to the heart of the matter is very powerful.
I will say that as a hypnotist, I don't counsel my clients. Rather, I help them to recognize that there are other matters for consideration. I blend these concepts into their sessions and help them to resolve some of these issues subconsciously.
Negative anchors turn to positive anchors. You can't lie to the subconscious. It will reject falsehoods in a heartbeat. For example, I can't tell a smoker "you now hate cigarettes". I have to help the subconscious find it's own reasons to hate cigarettes. Once the subconscious finds it's reason to want to hate cigarettes (or whatever it is), it will fill in all the blanks to make things happen. Suddenly, a smoker will reduce tobacco use from 2-3 packs per day to maybe 1-2 cigarettes per day. Some quit cold-turkey. How's that work? Well, that's a story for another time....
So, why am I telling you all this? To be honest, this is the tip of a very large iceberg. It's my hope that as you read this blog, you'll find out what your anchors are and learn to work with your own subconscious in overcoming things that make you unhappy.
I promise that as you keep reading, you'll find little nuggets that will help.